Join me in welcoming Graham Fehr (who also happens to be my amazing husband!) as he shares with us his heart and how he gave God the pen to write his story, even though it was not at all how he had imagined it would be!
Quick Bio: Graham Fehr. 26 years old. Currently residing in New Hampshire completing his final two years of D.O. school. Favorite sport: Soccer. Favorite hobby: Guitar. Favorite person: His wife (jk jk...not but really). Alright here we go!
Caren: For as long as you can remember being a doctor was something you were interested in. What was the original plan as you completed 4 years at Eastern Nazarene College?
G. Fehr: My plan coming out of college was to start medical school about 3 months after college graduation. I had applied to several schools and received several interviews so I thought I had a good chance of getting accepted.
Caren: So you and I know the original plan didn't go...well... the way you planned! What happened?
G. Fehr: As the months rolled by, one by one each school replied with a "thanks but no thanks." August rolled around and I was waitlisted for only one school. I didn't have a Plan B and was banking on getting into this school. However, I found out I was not accepted to that school the day after their new class had already started. This news really shook me. I felt angry, confused, and totally out of control.
Caren: What was your immediate reaction?
G. Fehr: I was certain this was the path God had for me. Why in the world was I not accepted somewhere? Up to this point, pretty much everything in my life had worked out perfectly. Why this? And why now? These were the questions that no one could answer. I remember each day asking God why and what was I supposed to do now? And for a long time, there was just silence. Each day was living those same questions over and over again. I had to accept that medicine may not be for me. I had doubts about whether I could cut the rigors of medical school.
Caren: How did you spend that year you were forced to take off?
G. Fehr: I ended up considering every other path in the healthcare field, but I kept coming back to medicine. It was the only career that I felt passionate about pursuing. But I knew what involved and the time it would take to try and apply a second time. This was when my dad mentioned applying to DO (doctor of osteopathic) schools. I had not considered this before and knew nothing about DO schools. After reading about their values and philosophy, I knew a holistic approach to medicine, taking into account the entire human being and not just physical illness, was key to leading people towards health and wellness. To make a long story short, I applied to several DO programs only 4 months after being rejected from MD programs. My first interview was at UNECOM in Maine and after my interview, I felt at peace with this program, their faculty, their students, and their philosophy. I distinctly remember on the plane ride home praying, "God, if you want me to go to UNECOM for school, make it perfectly clear to me. Let me know within a week yes or no." Normally, it takes at least 4 weeks for schools to respond with either yes or no. Exactly 1 week later, I received a letter saying I was accepted to UNECOM for the coming school year. I knew this was confirmation from God. I had other interviews at other programs already scheduled, but I ended up cancelling those and confirming my enrollment at UNECOM.
Caren: Looking back, how do you see Gods presence?
G. Fehr: These several months were extremely challenging on my faith. I had to move past the initial anger and confusion and come to trust that God knew exactly what had happened, that He saw me right where I was, and that He had a plan in store for me. More importantly, recognizing that the period of silence I experienced was in fact an answer from God - to wait on Him and put the faith I professed to have in Christ. I came to lean heavily, often daily, on several verses about God's faithfulness for those who seek him first.
Caren: If you can encourage others who are reading who may be in a situation where circumstances did not turn out the way they planned, what would you say?
G. Fehr: Just take one day at a time. That's all we are called to do. If situations don't turn out the way you expected, there is a reason. Instead of allowing yourself to be sucked into the negativity from life's circumstances, choose to be someone who sees the positive. 2 quotes that stuck with me through the years that I hope will encourage you:
"I may not know the answer, but I have learned to be at peace with the question."
"Instead of asking God 'Why?' ask 'What?' - what are you trying to teach me in this moment?"
A Bit About ME!
Hey friend! My name is Caren and I am so glad you stopped by! This blog is a bit of my corner on the internet where I share honest thoughts about my faith journey, fitness journey, doctor wife journey, and motherhood journey. ALL of it! The good bad and ugly! I pray that something I share encourages you today!